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Monday, January 18th, 2010Should I React This Way?
by Sandra L. Brown, MA
Many of you wondered if what you DO feel in the relationship is the ‘correct’ or ‘normal’ way to react. SHOULD you have certain reactions to certain disorders or behaviors? The answer is a resounding ‘YES.’
Normal people have very strong reactions when exposed short OR long term [...]
Dealing with Your Anger
Friday, January 15th, 2010by Kathy Krajco
If you are still smarting from narcissistic abuse, try something the next time your anger rises.
Go somewhere apart, where you can be alone. Then just sit down and admit to yourself, “Boy! am I angry!” Let yourself feel it.
I guarantee that you will feel great relief. Even comfort. Yes, you deserve your own [...]
Grief and It’s Impact on Relationship Selection
Tuesday, January 5th, 2010by Sandra Brown, MA
Grief can have devastating effects on the type of person you choose while you are still actively grieving. Many people do not realize they are grieving so are at-risk of choosing dangerously while being impaired by their grief. Some assume that grief is related only if your partner has recently died and [...]
The Fast Track is for Racing – Not Relationships!
Monday, January 4th, 2010by Sandra L. Brown, MA
We live in an instant society: instant messaging, drive – through food, microwaves, text messaging, IPods, IPhones — just about anything we want NOW we can have. No wonder we have confused technology speed with relational speed. After all, isn’t this the decade of ’speed dating’?
The problem is that there [...]
The Mystery of Loving an Abuser
Tuesday, November 24th, 2009by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D.,
Clinical Psychologist
People are often amazed at their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are stunned when they remember they’ve thought of killing themselves. Patients recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they remember their symptoms and behavior during the episode. A patient with Bipolar Disorder recently told [...]
Thanksgiving: The Holiday Narcissists Will Never Get
Sunday, November 22nd, 2009by Anna Valerious
One of the bedrock fundamental realities of a narcissist is their absolute refusal to be grateful. For anything.
Think about it. When have you seen true gratitude demonstrated by the narcissist?
Their lack of gratitude is the natural result of their extreme covetousness. They must have it all. All the love, regard, and attention. Especially [...]
Victims Engage in Dangerous “Magical Thinking”
Wednesday, November 18th, 2009Personality disorders are not only all-pervasive, but also diffuse and shape-shifting. It is taxing and emotionally harrowing to watch how a loved one is consumed by these pernicious and largely incurable conditions. Victims adopt varying stances and react in different ways to the inevitable abuse involved in relationships with personality disordered patients.
1. Destructive & Unrealistic [...]
Our Conflicted Feelings
Sunday, November 15th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
I think we all feel guilty at times about our feelings — or rather our lack of feeling — toward the narcissist. Something inside just dies when we confront the spirit in which a narcissist does what he or she does.
That is a confrontation with the pure will to evil. You know — [...]
Your Medical Conditions — Is the Root Your Relationships?
Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009 by Sandra Brown, MA
Many women don’t know that ongoing stress (recognized or not) leads to very predictable medical conditions. Our mental state is our physical state so women with the worst health issues are often women with the worst emotional stressors.
Women who were raised in addicted, mentally ill, abusive, or pathological families often have [...]
The Narcissist’s Rages
Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009by Kathy Krajco
Nearly everyone has seen something like the following little scene…
A three-or-four-year-old is with his mother in the grocery store. He points at a candy bar, looking at his mother with the brightest, cutest, most engaging little face you ever saw. Mother is busy and hardly glancing at him as she reads her grocery [...]