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Thursday, January 21st, 2010by Anna Valerious
Every abuser, every narcissist, every psychopath, every rapist, arsonist, every sociopath is after one thing: power. Power over others. This is an outgrowth of the narcissistic need to have all attention focused on them. We already understand that attention is the drug that the narcissist pursues at every moment. This is the core [...]
Who Is This Person? Jekyll and Hyde
Thursday, January 21st, 2010“When Your Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong – Loving or Leaving the Narcissist in Your Life”
by Mary Jo Fay
http://www.outoftheboxx.com
The Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde phenomenon that occurs in relationships with narcissists is a regular theme among those who sent me their stories. Soaring with the extreme highs of new love with the most incredible, romantic, [...]
Is This “Normal”?
Monday, January 18th, 2010Should I React This Way?
by Sandra L. Brown, MA
Many of you wondered if what you DO feel in the relationship is the ‘correct’ or ‘normal’ way to react. SHOULD you have certain reactions to certain disorders or behaviors? The answer is a resounding ‘YES.’
Normal people have very strong reactions when exposed short OR long term [...]
Dealing with Your Anger
Friday, January 15th, 2010by Kathy Krajco
If you are still smarting from narcissistic abuse, try something the next time your anger rises.
Go somewhere apart, where you can be alone. Then just sit down and admit to yourself, “Boy! am I angry!” Let yourself feel it.
I guarantee that you will feel great relief. Even comfort. Yes, you deserve your own [...]
Grief and It’s Impact on Relationship Selection
Tuesday, January 5th, 2010by Sandra Brown, MA
Grief can have devastating effects on the type of person you choose while you are still actively grieving. Many people do not realize they are grieving so are at-risk of choosing dangerously while being impaired by their grief. Some assume that grief is related only if your partner has recently died and [...]
The Fast Track is for Racing – Not Relationships!
Monday, January 4th, 2010by Sandra L. Brown, MA
We live in an instant society: instant messaging, drive – through food, microwaves, text messaging, IPods, IPhones — just about anything we want NOW we can have. No wonder we have confused technology speed with relational speed. After all, isn’t this the decade of ’speed dating’?
The problem is that there [...]
The Emotional Predator
Monday, January 4th, 2010by Sandra Brown, MA
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The other type of emotionally unavailable man is unavailable due to his relationship (or relationships) with another woman (or women). These guys are never really committed to a woman. They don’t see any relationship as necessarily permanent, including marriage – even if they give lip service to being “deeply committed” to the [...]
The Narcissist as Slanderer
Sunday, January 3rd, 2010by Kathy Krajco
On their way through life, narcissists leave a trail of trashed good names in their wake. This is a serious problem in the workplace, for narcissists often destroy the careers of their betters. Narcissistic managers and administrators often are serial bullies, who destroy the career and credibility of anyone who doesn’t participate in [...]
What Provokes a Narcissist’s Attack?
Friday, January 1st, 2010by Kathy Krajco
It wasn’t till I went no-contact with a narcissist for months that I realized a narcissist is like a disease. Here I was, feeling better. I had been so used to feeling badly that I didn’t even realize I was feeling badly anymore. A few months without any interaction with a narcissist and [...]
The Narcissist’s Disdain for Reality
Thursday, December 31st, 2009by Anna Valerious
The NPD illusion of superiority is a facet of a generalized disdain for reality. These individuals feel unconstrained by rules, customs, limits, and discipline. Their world is filled with self-fiction in which conflicts are dismissed, failures redeemed, and self-pride is effortlessly maintained. They easily devise plausible reasons to justify self-centered and inconsiderate behavior. [...]