Break-up
« Previous EntriesGrief and It’s Impact on Relationship Selection
Tuesday, January 5th, 2010by Sandra Brown, MA
Grief can have devastating effects on the type of person you choose while you are still actively grieving. Many people do not realize they are grieving so are at-risk of choosing dangerously while being impaired by their grief. Some assume that grief is related only if your partner has recently died and [...]
The Emotional Predator
Monday, January 4th, 2010by Sandra Brown, MA
(excerpts)
The other type of emotionally unavailable man is unavailable due to his relationship (or relationships) with another woman (or women). These guys are never really committed to a woman. They don’t see any relationship as necessarily permanent, including marriage – even if they give lip service to being “deeply committed” to the [...]
The ‘Other Woman’: Now He’s Happy – with HER!
Thursday, December 3rd, 2009by Sandra Brown, MA
Nothing cranks a woman up more than going through a drama-filled ending of her dysfunctional, pathological, abusive, addicted and/ or sick relationship ONLY to find he rapidly moved on and now seems ’so happy.’ Women tend to conclude it MUST have been ‘her’ and if he can be happy with someone else [...]
The Mystery of Loving an Abuser
Tuesday, November 24th, 2009by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D.,
Clinical Psychologist
People are often amazed at their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are stunned when they remember they’ve thought of killing themselves. Patients recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they remember their symptoms and behavior during the episode. A patient with Bipolar Disorder recently told [...]
Winning the Game
Tuesday, November 17th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
One thing I know for sure: If you need a narcissist, or if they can even just delude themselves into thinking you need them for anything, you aren’t going to win.
I think this mainly applies to a primary source of narcissistic supply in the narcissist’s life. That would be someone close to him [...]
Decision Time: Stay or Go?
Tuesday, November 17th, 2009by Anna Valerious
If your desire is to live in something resembling the Healthy Family model as outlined in the last post then you are forced to make some decisions. If the dynamics of your family of origin more resemble the Mob Family model you are going to have to recognize the Mob Family will never [...]
Our Conflicted Feelings
Sunday, November 15th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
I think we all feel guilty at times about our feelings — or rather our lack of feeling — toward the narcissist. Something inside just dies when we confront the spirit in which a narcissist does what he or she does.
That is a confrontation with the pure will to evil. You know — [...]
By Sticking With the Narcissist You are Making Them Worse
Sunday, November 1st, 2009Savior Complex
Otherwise known as beating your head against a wall…
by Anna Valerious
If you are under the misconception that you could someday fill the attention-cup of the narcissist it is time for a reality check. There is no filling their vast reservoir. You can labor intensively for the rest of your life only to find yourself [...]
6 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship
Friday, October 30th, 2009(could take years or weeks – no set time frame)
1. Managing the Situation
The point at which abuse is first experienced is a crisis for the relationship,and although some women end relationships at this point, the majority do not. They find, or accept, an explanation for the incident which allows for a future. They develop strategies [...]
Facing Facts
Thursday, October 29th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
One reason why the victims don’t face facts about a narcissist is because we don’t want to face the fact that we mean nothing to them. The ego doesn’t want to know that. For, being valued by another at absolute zero is a degrading value judgment.
When this is someone in your family, that [...]