Archive for December, 2009
« Previous EntriesThe Narcissist’s Disdain for Reality
Thursday, December 31st, 2009by Anna Valerious
The NPD illusion of superiority is a facet of a generalized disdain for reality. These individuals feel unconstrained by rules, customs, limits, and discipline. Their world is filled with self-fiction in which conflicts are dismissed, failures redeemed, and self-pride is effortlessly maintained. They easily devise plausible reasons to justify self-centered and inconsiderate behavior. [...]
Let’s Play Pretend
Wednesday, December 30th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
Let’s pretend (I love those words) that we are children again. We’re being Superboy or Supergirl, pretending that we can leap tall buildings in a single bound.
Then some other kid comes up and asks, “What are you doing?”
You reply, “I’m leaping a tall building in a single bound. See?”
Then he says, “That isn’t [...]
Disordered Thinking
Monday, December 28th, 2009by Anna Valerious
“The disordered character has plenty of insight and awareness but despite it, resists changing his/her attitudes and core beliefs. CDO’s (character-disordered individuals) don’t need any more insight. What they need and can benefit from are limits, confrontation, and most especially, correction. Cognitive-behavioral therapeutic approaches appropriate.” — page 21 In Sheep’s Clothing; Understanding and [...]
War & Peace with the Narcissist
Sunday, December 27th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
And so, what do you do if you cannot forgive your abuser?
What SHOULD you do? Which party is the obstacle to reconciliation here? You or your abuser?
What should you do? Just accept it. It’s a fact. Let it be. You cannot really change it: all you can do is delude yourself about it.
You [...]
Thoughts on Tiger Woods, Sexual Narcissism & Psychic Terrorism
Monday, December 21st, 2009by Barbara
If we as a society, are going to condemn the sexual terrorism done by our government at Gitmo, and then feel sorry for Tiger Woods wife; with his growing list of bed-partners – then we must recognize and take steps to hold the perpetrators of emotional abuse, which includes ’sexual terrorism’ accountable.
Should we give [...]
Psychological ‘Evil,’ Spiritual ‘Evil’ or Both?
Thursday, December 17th, 2009SOUL SLAYER
by Sandra Brown, MA
The one adjective I hear repeatedly connected to pathology is the word ‘evil.’ Spiritual, unspiritual, heathens, pagans, Christians, Jews, Buddhists, etc. — it doesn’t matter. The word ‘evil’ is the chosen adjective-of-choice to describe pathology. But what IS evil? Is it more psychological than it is spiritual? Or is it a [...]
Boundaries: You, Them & the Pathological
Monday, December 14th, 2009by Sandra Brown, MA
Here’s an email I got:
“I am concerned about some of the things someone I am dating said…
1. He told me that his ex-wife accused him of being abusive. He said he was telling me this because he wants to be honest and does not want me to find this out from [...]
You Are An Object
Wednesday, December 9th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
An infant in a crib is unaware of the fundamental difference between people and the other objects that revolve around it in its world. Both its mother and the mobile overhead are just objects to it. It quickly learns that when it cries, the mother-object appears and fulfills all its needs. Ooh, power!
So, [...]
Under His “Spell” – II – How The Pathological Uses Mind Control
Tuesday, December 8th, 2009by Sandra Brown, MA
We started to talk about the very REAL issue of trance in relationship with pathologicals.
Women feel ‘under his spell,’ ’spell bound,’ ‘mesmerized,’ ‘hypnotized,’ ’spaced out,’ ‘not in control of their own thoughts….’ All of these are ways of saying that various levels of covert and subtle mind-control have been happening with the [...]
Understanding the Intense Attachment to a Narcissist
Monday, December 7th, 2009by Sandra Brown, MA
Women in these relationships and their family members who watch her relationship dynamics all wonder about **why** this dangerous guy is so hard to leave. While all the people around her have the easy and rational answers of how and why she should leave, the disengagement and detachment is harder with pathological [...]