Archive for November, 2009
« Previous EntriesThe White House Party Crashers
Monday, November 30th, 2009by Lisa E. Scott
Has it really come to this? Really? Does this not prove my point that American society is absolutely out of control right now?!
Bravo is currently considering this woman to be on “Real Housewives of Washington, D.C.” I’m sorry, but if this person represents the women of our nation’s capital, I am [...]
The Misconception that Narcissists are Touchy
Sunday, November 29th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
I’d hate to admit how long it took me to realize that narcissists shouldn’t be regarded as touchy and reacting to perceived slights when they attack.
Like every normal person, I ASSUMED that’s why they attack. I mean, what other reason could there possibly be for suddenly getting so viciously aggressive and attacking someone [...]
Do Narcissists Have Emotions?
Friday, November 27th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
It is often said that narcissists and psychopaths don’t experience the full depth and range of human emotions. I have known some narcissists very well for a very long time, and I am sure there is something different about their emotions.
Maybe a large part of the difference is simply due to their identification [...]
Stages of Recovery for Narcissism Victims
Thursday, November 26th, 2009Stages of recovery for victims of NPD:
1. Realization: In the beginning, it was a dream come true. The most intoxicating earth-shattering love imaginable. Soul-mate, closed than your own skin… this was THE ONE! (This was the lure, the grooming, the set-up)
Then came the 1st crack in perfection. An inexplicable rage in your partner that seemed [...]
The Mystery of Loving an Abuser
Tuesday, November 24th, 2009by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D.,
Clinical Psychologist
People are often amazed at their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are stunned when they remember they’ve thought of killing themselves. Patients recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they remember their symptoms and behavior during the episode. A patient with Bipolar Disorder recently told [...]
Thanksgiving: The Holiday Narcissists Will Never Get
Sunday, November 22nd, 2009by Anna Valerious
One of the bedrock fundamental realities of a narcissist is their absolute refusal to be grateful. For anything.
Think about it. When have you seen true gratitude demonstrated by the narcissist?
Their lack of gratitude is the natural result of their extreme covetousness. They must have it all. All the love, regard, and attention. Especially [...]
Watch Out for the Easy Path
Friday, November 20th, 2009by Anna Valerious
The book,“In Sheep’s Clothing”, gives a list of seven specific distorted thinking patterns of character-disordered people (pages 22-23). A quick look at the list without the full descriptions is as follows:
* Self-focused (self-centered) thinking.
* Possessive thinking.
* Extreme (all-or-none) thinking.
* Egomaniacal thinking.
* Shameless thinking.
* Quick and easy thinking.
* Guiltless thinking.
I want to focus [...]
Can You Empathize? Do You Care?
Thursday, November 19th, 2009by Underground Panther in the Sky
When I was growing up and I faced people in school on the bus, people who rejected and bullied me, soon I felt strange, like I had been marked.
When kids from schools I had never attended, kids I never met spat on me, it felt like I had some invisible [...]
Victims Engage in Dangerous “Magical Thinking”
Wednesday, November 18th, 2009Personality disorders are not only all-pervasive, but also diffuse and shape-shifting. It is taxing and emotionally harrowing to watch how a loved one is consumed by these pernicious and largely incurable conditions. Victims adopt varying stances and react in different ways to the inevitable abuse involved in relationships with personality disordered patients.
1. Destructive & Unrealistic [...]
Winning the Game
Tuesday, November 17th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
One thing I know for sure: If you need a narcissist, or if they can even just delude themselves into thinking you need them for anything, you aren’t going to win.
I think this mainly applies to a primary source of narcissistic supply in the narcissist’s life. That would be someone close to him [...]