Archive for September, 2009
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Tuesday, September 29th, 2009Narcissists and the Language of Babel
by Kathy Krajco
Quite a few years ago, I saw a documentary on TV about batterers. Unfortunately, I can’t remember the name of the program or the expert being interviewed, but what he said I think is self evident to anyone who has ever tried to communicate with an abusive person.
What [...]
Indifference is to Narcissists as Bug Repellent is to Mosquitoes
Monday, September 28th, 2009A frequently visited theme is the need to cut off contact with the narcissist. There are several reasons for cutting off contact, but for those of us trying to rid ourselves of the parasitic narcissist the only reason that really matters is self-preservation. To stay with the narcissist is to be sucked dry. You stay [...]
Narcissists and Withholding
Sunday, September 27th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
Being mentally little children, who feel small and insignificant in a world of giants, narcissists likewise are always on the lookout for an opportunity to make themselves feel important. Like little children they play “Pretend.”
For example, I know of a man whose first family moved out on him, and, when another woman and [...]
Society Celebrates Narcissism Again
Thursday, September 24th, 2009I don’t want to give him any publicity, but I have to vent. Not sure if you have heard of or read Tucker Max’s book, “I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell,” but it makes me sick that it’s been made into a major motion picture movie.
The author degrades and debases women and friends, acknowledging [...]
The Narcissist’s Inability to Apologize
Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009“[APOLOGIES] are not some pious, phoney-baloney, half-hearted rendition of what you think they want to hear. Nor is it a watered-down, politically correct ‘confession’ that you think will buy you closure at the expense of truth… [admit] what you are doing to screw up your life. This also means admitting that you are getting payoffs [...]
A Narcissist’s Ability to Become a Different Person
Monday, September 21st, 2009by Kathy Krajco
It was about this time of year when a narcissist went away to college as a freshman at the colossal University of Wisconsin in Madison. The next thing her family knew, she was a different person.
She had always been your good, clean-cut, all-American kid in high school. Got good grades. Went to Mass [...]
The Narcissist’s Cover-Up Reveals It WAS Intentional
Sunday, September 20th, 2009Here is an excerpt from the article, “The Three Rs of Accountability”, at Luke 17:3 Ministries.
Many offenders are fond of saying, “But I didn’t mean it that way” or “I never meant for that to happen” . BUT INTENT IS NOT THE ISSUE. RESULTS ARE…
…Everybody makes mistakes. Where most of us begin to lose our [...]
Should You Confront a Narcissist About His Narcissism?
Sunday, September 20th, 2009by Beth McHugh
This is a question I am often asked by clients who are dealing with a narcissist in their lives. The answer is: it depends.
As a psychologist, I cannot tell a client what to do, they have to come to a decision about what to do about problems in their lives on their own [...]
Your Memory… Use It
Saturday, September 19th, 2009by Anna Valerious
The article I referenced in earlier posts, “Narcissism and the Dynamics of Evil”, is a treasure trove of observation, insight and profound wisdom. I suspect I’ll be spotlighting various points in this article from time to time because many of the author’s points should be emphasized to maximize their impact.
The article makes an [...]
The Narcissist’s Rages
Friday, September 18th, 2009by Kathy Krajco
Nearly everyone has seen something like the following little scene…
A three-or-four-year-old is with his mother in the grocery store. He points at a candy bar, looking at his mother with the brightest, cutest, most engaging little face you ever saw. Mother is busy and hardly glancing at him as she reads her grocery [...]